When working with children who struggle to emotionally regulate, I notice that each of these children has one thing in common: There is someone in their circle who they view as a role model who also struggles to emotionally regulate.

Many of us were not taught how to manage our emotions in a healthy way much less understand what they are trying to convey.

It comes so naturally to us, and especially to parents to use the phrases “You are fine,” or “You are okay,” when comforting children.